You stand on stage before a crowd of people, many of whom are in desperate need of love and acceptance … and they each wonder… “Could love really be unconditional, kind, patient and all embracing”… and right on cue, as if you can read their thoughts… you whisper to yourself… “Boy have they come to the right place… and I have just the song for them.”
And so, as if on auto-pilot, you take a big breath and begin to belt out the chorus of “I LOVE YOU WITH ALL OF MY HEART!”
“But wait… stop… STOP SINGING!?” I say, holding up my hand like a traffic cop.
“Huh” you reply with a confused and bewildered expression on your face. “Why are you interrupting me? I am trying to love these people with my tender song about love and intimacy.”
And I counter with…
“But why are you shouting this song out as if the person you love is on a mountain top many miles away.”
You are even more perplexed now and so I sit you down, give you a moment to gather yourself before I continue…
“Imagine yourself, not on stage but in a lovely restaurant.
You are having a romantic dinner with the love of your life. You have a private table in the corner of the room. The red rose you bought her/him sits in a fine crystal vase on a matching red linen table cloth. You hold hands and look into each others eyes as the flickering candles throw a soft light onto your faces.
In this long anticipated moment, your hands begin to perspire. You desperately want to tell this special person about the deep love and desire you have for them. You had considered a card, a scented love letter perhaps… even a plane flying over her/his house with a banner saying “I Love You with all of my Heart”. But in the end you knew that, to convey both your passion and the feelings of tenderness you must sing this lovely song.
So consider carefully.
Do you stand up on your chair and belt out the song for all to hear, including the other diners in the restaurant and the cooks in the kitchen? Or do you look deeply into this loved one’s eyes and sing in a half whisper, in a tone of voice that sounds slightly broken, as if he/she is the only person in the whole wide world that matters to you in this moment?
If you can understand my little allegory, then you are ready to return to the stage and share your love song with your audience.